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Mastering Virtual Meetings

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This workshop on Mastering Virtual Meetings offered as part of our Future of Work learning program provides employees with an overview of the role they can play in improving the virtual meeting experience, including steps to take prior to the meeting, skills to employ in the meeting and ways to assess virtual meeting invitations.

Virtual meetings can be optimized for effective collaboration, communication and productivity. Leaders are encouraged to explore best practices when planning for meetings and finding ways to enhance the experience for all participants.

Clarify meeting purpose and desired outcomes

Most of the issues pertaining to virtual meeting effectiveness are connected to a lack of preparation prior to the meeting. Your virtual meeting actually begins before the start time of the meeting. In addition to scheduling one to two small blocks of time to prepare for your virtual meeting, consider the following to clarify the meeting’s purpose and achieve your desired outcomes:

  • Conduct pre-meeting check-ins with required participants to ensure alignment and preparation. 
  • Identify relevant information, pre-work, pre-reads, etc., that can be sent out before the meeting and would save time during the meeting.
  • Determine two to three things you can do to build connection in the meeting.
  • Identify solution-focused questions (a list of examples is provided below) that can stimulate a positive, engaging discussion in the meeting.
  • Find opportunities to encourage participation in the meeting including early interaction, polls, drawing tools and roundtable discussions.
  • Prepare a good agenda (tips below) and send it out with enough advance notice to give participants adequate time to review and prepare.
  • Lead by example: “Two things that I want to bring into this meeting are…”

Meeting preparation checklist

Ensure items below that are relevant to your situation are complete before arranging the meeting:

Meeting purpose and desired outcomes for this meeting are clear to all parties.

Agenda items are prioritized with sufficient time allotment.

Follow-up items from the last meeting are brought forward.

Required participants (attendees that must be there) vs. optional participants (attendees that are nice to be there) are identified. As a courtesy to your busy colleagues, taking the time to clarify this can help everybody manage their time.

Logistics - e.g. start time, end time and location - are determined.

Key roles - e.g. chair, timekeeper, minutetaker - are assigned.

Tips for creating your meeting agenda

In our busy world, there is often pressure to “get down to business” and to skip “small talk”. There is nothing more important than trust and psychological safety in high performing teams - while you may not feel you have the time to connect, you can’t afford to not build in time to connect. This time will impact every other aspect of your meeting.

  • Be cautious about getting “little stuff” out of the way first. Place highest priority items first.
  • Build in time to connect interpersonally. 
  • Allow space in the agenda for impromptu items.
  • Circulate the agenda with enough advance notice to give time for participants to properly prepare.
  • For recurring meetings, remember to use the minutes of the last meeting as input for upcoming meetings and ensure that follow-up (and accountability) is in place.

Helpful questions in the meeting

  • What’s our focus today?
  • What would make this a good use of your time? 
  • What do we want to accomplish here?
  • What questions do you want answered?
  • What’s your understanding of the purpose of this meeting?
  • What are your thoughts on ….. ?  
  • What more can you tell us about that?
  • What haven't we discussed that we should discuss?
  • What other options are there? What other ideas do you have?
  • What might be a different perspective or approach to this?
  • Have we given this enough time and are we ready to move forward?
  • Are we ready to make some decisions?
  • Out of everything, what do you think are the most important issues/next steps?
  • Moving forward, which option do you like the best?
  • What barriers/challenges can we anticipate?
  • What resources/people will we need?
  • What are specific next steps and due dates?
  • When and where do you plan to work on this?

Tips to help negotiate some incoming meeting invites

  • If it’s at all delicate, avoid email or instant messengers like Google Chat.
  • Build trust and psychological safety so that you and your team feel comfortable speaking up and negotiating some meeting time (and other requests).
  • Have plans in place. Be able to compare the incoming request to your other priorities and share why you’re asking questions about the incoming meeting request.
  • Don’t assume that they’ve thought the invite through - propose options.
  • Block off buffer time in your calendar like meeting-free time to get other things done.

Helpful language and good questions for negotiating positively

If you have concerns about a meeting invite you receive, the single most effective tip is to call the meeting organizer and ask either one of the questions below:

  • “I just received your meeting invite. I would love to participate but I’ve got to get _____ done for _____ by _____ so that time’s going to be difficult. Is there another option that might work?” 
  • “That meeting time is going to be really tight (because of x, y, z), could (propose new time) work?”

Other language that can also help:

  • “If we stay focused, can we do this meeting in 30-45 minutes (instead of the default hour)?”
  • “Do you have an agenda to send me? I want to make sure I’m prepared (and double-check that I’m required to be there).”

The “next 10 meeting invites” exercise

If you tend to default to “yes” when receiving meeting invites, and if you’d like to increase your skill in diplomatically negotiating some meeting invites, try this exercise over the next week or two.

Step 1:

Out of the next 10 meetings that you normally accept, choose one to potentially decline. Base your decision on:

  • Past experience: review the last two weeks of meetings - in retrospect, were there some that you realized you did not necessarily need to be at?
  • Your best judgment.
  • Feedback from your leader and others.

Step 2:

 Once you’ve identified a meeting to negotiate, think:

  • What language would help deliver the negotiation in a diplomatic and positive way?

When we are mindful about which meetings we accept, the following benefits occur:

  • We’re reassured that the world doesn’t end and we gain the confidence to continue doing this.
  • We rewire our thinking. Meeting invites are often more negotiable and other people are more reasonable than we think.
  • We develop skills on language and tactics.
  • We influence the other person’s behaviour and as a result, help shift the culture.
  • We reduce overwhelm and are more productive.